Looking to numb my brain for a bit last weekend I turned to the TV and started channel surfing landing, eventually, on Big Bang Theory. Are you familiar with it? It’s a terrific show, actually — a sitcom (which I usually don’t like) now in its eighth season.
There are five main characters. Two geeky physicists, Sheldon and Leonard, who share an apartment … Penny, a waitress, who lives across the hall (who Leonard lusts after, with varying degrees of success) and their two equally geeky friends, Howard (an aerospace engineer) and Raj (an astrophysicist).
Anyway, in the episode I watched, which happened to be a re-run of an old show, Sheldon, who is my favourite character, was angsting because Penny had shared a secret with him and asked, specifically, that he not tell Leonard. Needless to say it drove him insane and caused him no end of grief. A performance which was absolutely hysterical.
I can relate, minus the meltdown he had. I hate secrets. To me they’re akin to lies. I would never betray anyone who’s told me something in confidence but frankly, I’d really rather not know. Where I’m lucky is, I seem to have a built-in defence mechanism. As soon as anyone whispers anything in my ear I forget every word they said. Instantly. So no chance I’d repeat it, even if I would. Which I wouldn’t.
Here’s what I don’t understand, though. If it’s such a secret why are you blabbing it to me — and probably not just me, either? Because you just can’t keep your damn mouth shut, that’s why. Which makes you the very last person anyone should ever trust with anything private or personal.
Humans really are lousy judges of character, aren’t we?
But it’s not just secrets I don’t like. I don’t like secretive people either. You know the ones I mean. They play their cards very close to their chests. But, they do everything they can to get you to spill the beans on every facet of your life — revealing very little, if anything, in return. Yeah. They want to know everything, spare no details please, but they tell you next to nothing. Drives me insane!! It’s kind of disingenuous, don’t you think?
And then there’s the companies who do it. They really piss me off. Because in their cases, it is absolutely, intentionally dishonest. They know they’re doing it. It’s their corporate culture. And, as a result, I can’t trust them; and try not to do business with them if I can avoid it. The property managers here, where I live, are like that. I swear their motto is: “Tell them as little as possible and only when absolutely necessary.”
Among all the other reasons it’s despicable, it’s also disrespectful. And that I cannot stand.
Which brings me to something else I saw over the weekend, on Facebook. It’s allegedly from Meryl Streep. I say “allegedly” because she’s so always so private I find it hard to believe she’d be posting stuff on Facebook. This piece looks like an ad, a double page spread. On the left it’s a photo of her and on the right is the text.
To be honest I don’t care if it’s from her or not. I agree with what it says, which is:
I NO LONGER …
“I no longer have patience for certain things, not because I’ve become arrogant, but simply because I reached a point in my life where I do not want to waste more time with what displeases me or hurts me. I have no patience for cynicism, excessive criticism and demands of any nature. I lost the will to please those who do not like me, to love those who do not love me and to smile at those who do not want to smile at me.
I no longer spend a single minute on those who lie or want to manipulate. I decided not to coexist anymore with pretense, hypocrisy, dishonesty and cheap praise. I do not tolerate selective erudition nor academic arrogance. I do not adjust either to popular gossiping. I hate conflict and comparisons. I believe in a world of opposites and that’s why I avoid people with rigid and inflexible personalities. In friendship I dislike the lack of loyalty and betrayal. I do not get along with those who do not know how to give a compliment or a word of encouragement. Exaggerations bore me and I have difficulty accepting those who do not like animals. And on top of everything I have no patience for anyone who does not deserve my patience.”
Amen and ditto. Rant over. I feel much better now. Thanks for listening.