I can’t believe I’m saying this, but …

… there’s a part of me that feels sorry for Donald Trump. Wait … wait … hear me out before you have me committed or banish me.

First and foremost, I am NOT a fan of his, never was, never will be — and the sooner he’s out of the White House, the better — for his own good, the good of his country and the entire world. But …

Donald Trump is sick. Really and truly, seriously and dangerously mentally ill; and, I believe, he is also a desperately unhappy man. I’m no psychiatrist, but I don’t think you just suddenly wake up one day this crazy. I’ll bet he showed signs as a child and, for whatever reason, he
never got the professional help he so sorely needs.

He is so hideous, in every way, that it’s very easy to be disgusted by him and even hate him. I know, because I have those feelings and sometimes the intensity of antagonism I feel for him scares me. So why the sympathy all of a sudden?

Couple of reasons.

First, I caved and bought the book and had my nose buried in it all weekend. I honestly wasn’t planning to read it, I was convinced it was just more of the same of what we’ve already seen, read, heard and endured ad nauseum. But between the almost non-stop coverage Michael Wolff’s Fire and Fury was getting and seeing all the comments from people I know who were reading it, my curiosity got the better of me — and the next thing I knew, I had downloaded the Kindle version.

I’m not here to debate which facts in the book are true and which aren’t. We’ve already seen and heard for ourselves, Trump lie daily on television, we’ve read the insulting and incendiary tweets, we’ve heard the tape of him bragging about hitting on women, his lousy reputation as a businessman is no secret etc. etc. etc. — so there’s enough in the book that is true, to paint quite a horrifying picture of the man who is the 45th president of the United States.

Not that I’m condoning false facts. I’m not. But that’s not the point of this post. The point is, the more of the book I read, the more pathetic Trump became.

Maybe it’s the dispassion with which its written, maybe it’s because it’s just words on pages without seeing him — red-faced, finger circling the air, spouting off, maybe it’s because it’s just words on pages without news anchors and pundits weighing in, stirring emotions … but all I know is,  instead of anger and disgust I started to feel pity. He is a sad, lonely, severely damaged man who will never have what he craves the most — to be liked and respected.

Having said that, by no means do I think he should remain president. That he ran, got elected and still occupies the White House is an outrage. Congress needs to get their act together and get rid of him — whether it’s through impeachment or the Twenty-fifth Amendment — before he becomes more of a liability and a threat than he already is. However …

As Maria Shriver wrote in her most recent Sunday Paper — “I want,” she said “to live and lead from a place of love. Yes, leading from a place of love is going to be my toughest intention yet because it means I’m going to have to show love to people who don’t show it to me. It means I’m going to have to show it to people who I don’t agree with, who I don’t care for, and who don’t show it to those that I do care about. It also means I’m going to have to find it deep within myself when my first reaction might be anything but loving.”

Her words resonated with me — at least to a point. While I haven’t evolved as much as Maria Shriver has, I can muster up at least some compassion for a human being who is seriously mentally ill and is unraveling before our very eyes. That said, get him  out of there and make it snappy!






20 thoughts on “I can’t believe I’m saying this, but …

  1. I will never forget the look on his face when he faced the crowds on election night, after the win. I turned to my husband and said, “He’s terrified.” I felt sympathy for him, too.

    Having sympathy/empathy/compassion for someone does not equate to supporting/agreeing/allowing their actions to continue. It just means you have capacity for love and understanding. And I agree with you completely – he’s a troubled soul and needs intervention.

    • Thanks Maggie. You have expressed it perfectly. On a humane level one has to feel at least some compassion for someone as troubled as he is. As each day passes and the stress and pressure on him mounts and I see him becoming more and more unglued I expect to wake up one morning to news that he’s suffered a complete breakdown and has been hospitalized. Nobody should have to go through that and still worse be ridiculed for it. I hope he gets help soon and The US can get itself back on course again.

  2. I wish I were a bigger person…but he was not exactly born in the dark ages..and with slightly tarnished silver spoon in his mouth…he could have been helped not encouraged! That people embraced this overblown,narcissistic, nasty person is still beyond my scope of forgiveness…

    I keep thinking of all people he screwed,put out of business, hurt, banks,contractors, Atlantic City and my country! this was a screw your attitude . I did not read book yet as am dealing with Richards passing and my flu…enough is enough! Xoxo,Barb

    Sent from my iPad


    • First, I am SO sorry about Richard. Thankfully it was quick and hopefully he didn’t suffer. As for DT, Yes, he should have been helped and not encouraged — when he was a child. If he had been maybe he’d be a very different man today. And like you, I also don’t know how anyone could have voted for him — or chosen to do business with him. I am not condoning or excusing his actions or behaviour. On a humane level I just hope he gets some help soon because he desperately needs it — and on that level, and that level only I can feel sorry for him.

  3. My compassion stops at the point where his ineptness denigrates my country, my fellow humans, and our planet. I agree that one can have compassion for even the most repulsive, but the nature of his disease means his brain works overtime protecting his ego. He accepts no culpability or responsibility for his actions.
    Beyond that, he serves as a distraction for the truly malevolent in our country – the Congressional leaders who have rolled over and put party over country. The corporate lobbyists who choose profit over safety standards, decent wages, and clean air and water. The greedy rich who spend all their energy becoming richer. Trump is a symptom, but not the disease that currently racks our country, so I admit to feeling a little resentful of the focus on the ringmaster and not the rest of the circus. You got me wound up, Fransi!

  4. Yeah, I’m not that good a person. As I watch him dismantle decades of safeguards that protected people and the environment I am having trouble with the sympathy part. I don’t understand that his family and friends haven’t intervened. Congress I can understand. Those are a bunch of guys who are delusional enough to think they can control him. My real sympathies are for the people that are negatively affected by his decisions although I do understand your point. I haven’t read the book yet so my outlook may change. Surprisingly my husband bought it the first day of sales and we haven’t yet received it. For some reason he wanted the hard copy. We already have a waiting list for the book after we’ve read it.

    • I totally understand how you feel. I’m a Canadian and feel the same way. I’m just separating a mentally ill man from the other guy who’s got a job he should never have gotten.

      Where I do disagree is with your assessment of Congress — I don’t think they think they can control him — I don’t think they give a rat’s ass about controlling him. I think they’ve aligned with him for one reason only — to get their own twisted agenda passed.

    • I wouldn’t call it noble, just the same sadness I feel toward anyone with a serious mental or physical illness. Doesn’t mean I like him or anything he stands for. I definitely don’t think he should be president. And I am certainly not suggesting that we start a Donald Trump love in because he’s sick.

    • The VP is definitely not my cup of tea, Chris. I think all of Washington needs a major overhaul. If we’ve learned anything with this election, it’s just how much of a cesspool it is.

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