A friend of mine is selling her house. In preparation for putting it on the market, she has been purging for months. Going through every closet, drawer, shelf, cupboard and pantry, getting rid of everything she no longer needs, wants or uses.
I’m smiling, somewhat sheepishly, as I’m writing because it’s something we all go through — usually when we’re about to move. That’s when, after years of accumulating and stockpiling and “saving,” we suddenly spring into action — because the thought of packing it all, unpacking it all and trying to find room for it is more than we can bear.
We went out for dinner last week — my friend and I — it was a catch up of sorts. We’ve both been caught up in our own lives and, although we text and talk on the phone all the time, we haven’t had time to get together. It was one of those marvelous dinners that had nothing to do with the food. It was all about the conversation. We talked and talked, for a couple of hours. It was really, really good.
And it’s made me think. “Clutter” can also be emotional. And we really sell ourselves short if all we do is go through our clothes and our shoes and our chachkas and our files. Our emotional house also needs cleaning out. We also have to deal with the emotional clutter all of us have:
The missed opportunities, the mistakes, the disappointments, the heartbreak, the toxic relationships, the regrets, the worry and the doubts we’ve been carrying around for god knows how long. The negative thoughts from the past that actually stop us from moving forward.
Much like the physical clutter we hang on to even though we know we shouldn’t, emotional baggage is also difficult to part with. In fact, it’s probably more difficult to part with. It’s like the ratty old sweater you just can’t toss because it’s been with you for years. It’s familiar, it’s cozy, it’s comfortable and comforting. It’s always been there and, if you’re going to be completely honest with yourself, you don’t want to let it go. You may even be afraid to let it go. You like to know you can reach for it and wrap yourself in it, for whatever reason.
But here’s the thing. It’s only when you do let it go — and clear some space –that the Universe can bring you something better.